We’re talking about SEX tomorrow

Hey parents, we apologize for the late notice, but we wanted to inform you of the subject matter of tomorrow’s Sunday School lesson at New Providence. In our current series we are talking about how God calls us to be “Distinct” in our character, influence, reactions, and this week… relationships!

When you look through scripture, it isn’t difficult to see that God has some strong cautions and commands when it comes to this area, especially when dealing with PURITY. Our main scripture this week comes from Matthew 5:27-32 where it says…

“You have heard it said, do not commit adultery. But I tell you, everyone who looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart. If your right eye causes you to sin, gouge it out and throw it away. For it is better that you lose one of the parts of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell.”

Woah….adultery, lust, gouging, hell… talk about a loaded passage! I’m sure those words make some of you uncomfortable (especially thinking about your middle schooler!), and we agree! They are uncomfortable terms, and talking about SEX can be a difficult conversation, but it is one we are willing to have. Our culture is talking about it, TV shows are centered around it, movies feature it, songs talk about it, M&M commercials exploit it, and you can bet the kids that they go to school with are being exposed to the same things.

Our goal for tomorrow is NOT to focus on sex, or adultery, or even pornography. Our goal is to talk about PURITY! Purity in our thoughts, in our actions, and in our relationships. God calls us to live PURE lives just like Jesus did, and to rid ourselves of anything that gets in the way. We hope to have a clear, honest conversation about that with your kids tomorrow, and for them to leave with a clear picture of what God wants for us.

As always, any parents are welcome to sit in on our Sunday School classes if you would like to observe or know more. Class begins at 9:00am meeting in the BRISK Cafe at Eastside.

Also, check out this great article on the subject!




How was school today?

Stop me if you’ve had this conversation with your child before….

“Hey honey how was school today?” 

“Fine” (insert other indifferent comment) 

“What did you learn today?” 

“Nothing/I don’t know” (insert “Jesus” for church related activities) 

Aaaaand scene!!!

Now I’m sure at least a few of you have had conversations like this with your teens! For some of you this may describe a daily conversation. Your child comes home from being at school for 7+ hours aaaaand “it was ok”, and “nothing” happened, and “seriously, why are you trying to get in my business!!!”

I know this is not true for every teenager, but it is safe to say that the majority of teens aren’t bursting with anticipation to tell their parents how their day was (parents if you really want to know, just check their facebook or twitter…. JUST KIDDING!). In fact, it is a common enough occurrence that there are dozens of articles and tips for parents on the topic.

But put aside the studies and “how to talk to your teenager” books for a minute and imagine with me a different conversation…

“Hey honey how was youth group tonight?” 

“Fine” (insert other indifferent comment) 

“I read that you guys were talking about David tonight. What part of David’s life did you talk about?” 

“(perfect, intelligent, well-thought out response)”

“Did you read the verse in 1 Samuel that shares the story of when David was running away from Saul?” 

“I think we did, but I forget” 

“Why don’t you go get your Bible quick and we can read it again right now!” 

Scene continues with meaningful conversation!!!

Wow, what a difference, right! Now obviously this is a best case scenario, some of you might have to take a little different approach or put in a little more work with your child to get there, but imagine the potential to connect with your child on a deeper level if YOU can be the one to tell THEM what they should have learned and ask them about it!

There is no magical solution to getting your teens to talk to you, and because of God’s beautiful and creative design every one of your children is going to be unique in how they interact and respond to these types of questions, but don’t discredit the value in TRYING! Your teens care more about what you think than you will ever know! Taking the initiative to learn about their schedules, their interests, their hobbies, their friends, and their relationship with God and ask them about it will have a profound impact on their life.

Just remember that teens today are OVERLOADED with information and activity, and it may help to try a different approach once in a while. (Tip: Check out this article on some tips and ideas!)

Here at Providence Church we want to partner with you parents as you have these conversations with your teens. The way we want to do that is by making sure you as parents are well informed of what we are teaching at BRISK Youth, what activities are coming up, and other ways that we are interacting with your students. That is part of the reason we began this PARENT BLOG!!!

We encourage you to continue checking out this blog for up-to-date information and resources, and if you have not already joined our parent email list, please email Dustin right away!!!

And while you are here…. take a few minutes to check out:

Current Series: “Right Choices” (High School)

Current Series for BRISK High SCHOOL                         (Starts Wed. 1/27- Ends Wed. 4/20)

***Setting You Free to Make Right Choices by Josh Mcdowell***

“Our youth are confused about TRUTH”

   As we examine our youth’s views about morality, it is apparent that the
foundations upon which many parents, pastors, and youth leaders attempt to build are crumbling. Traditional biblical concepts are eroding… More

   Do you really think that a young person’s views about truth will make a significant difference in their behavior?” That is one of the astounding insights of this research. The study indicates that when our youth do not accept an objective standard of truth they become:
􀂙 – 36% more likely to lie to you as a parent! 
– 􀂙 48% more likely to cheat on an exam!
􀂙-  2 times more likely to try to physically hurt someone!

   During this series we are going to be talking about the idea of truth and how our culture’s view compares to God’s view. We will be spending time each week in a large group setting talking about truth in our culture, current events/issues, and exploring God’s word, as well as time in small groups for some deeper discussion.

   We will also be taking several weeks throughout the series to talk about making Right Choices in specific areas of life such as Music, Movies/Entertainment, and Relationships/Dating. We will be taking a structured approach to develop “Biblical Principles” (see example here) in each of these areas that will help students (and leaders!) come up with a practical, biblical, game plan for making right choices every day.

For an in-depth schedule of what we will be talking about each week, click here or see more below.

To take a look at the leader’s guide, click here! (*we simply use this resource as a guide and our actual lessons will differ in content and material)

For more information on Josh Mcdowell ministries, click here!

Thanks for taking the time to invest in your teens and for allowing us at Providence Church BRISK to partner with you! Keep checking out our Parent Blog for more resources and information.

HS Brisk schedule
BRISK High School Series Schedule Jan-Jun 2016

Current Series: “Making of a King” (Middle School)

Current Series for BRISK Middle School                       (Starts Wed. 1/27- Ends Wed. 2/24)

***The Making of a King XP3 Curriculum***

 Every good story has a hero. Think about it.  Superman. Luke Skywalker. Katniss Everdeen. They aren’t just random characters. They’re larger than life. Maybe they’re not perfect, but they’re exciting and they’re brave. And that’s what keeps us interested. That’s why we cheer for them. Believe it or not, the Bible is full of heroes like that. More

Check out the weekly schedule here!

Check out the series intro video here!

Thanks for taking the time to invest in your teens and for allowing us at Providence Church BRISK to partner with you! Keep checking out our Parent Blog for more resources and information.


Upcoming Series for BRISK Middle School

3/02-3/23     ***The Comparison Trap XP3 Curriculum***

4/06-4/20     ***Out of This World XP3 Curriculum***

(More details to come)