How was school today?

Stop me if you’ve had this conversation with your child before….

“Hey honey how was school today?” 

“Fine” (insert other indifferent comment) 

“What did you learn today?” 

“Nothing/I don’t know” (insert “Jesus” for church related activities) 

Aaaaand scene!!!

Now I’m sure at least a few of you have had conversations like this with your teens! For some of you this may describe a daily conversation. Your child comes home from being at school for 7+ hours aaaaand “it was ok”, and “nothing” happened, and “seriously, why are you trying to get in my business!!!”

I know this is not true for every teenager, but it is safe to say that the majority of teens aren’t bursting with anticipation to tell their parents how their day was (parents if you really want to know, just check their facebook or twitter…. JUST KIDDING!). In fact, it is a common enough occurrence that there are dozens of articles and tips for parents on the topic.

But put aside the studies and “how to talk to your teenager” books for a minute and imagine with me a different conversation…

“Hey honey how was youth group tonight?” 

“Fine” (insert other indifferent comment) 

“I read that you guys were talking about David tonight. What part of David’s life did you talk about?” 

“(perfect, intelligent, well-thought out response)”

“Did you read the verse in 1 Samuel that shares the story of when David was running away from Saul?” 

“I think we did, but I forget” 

“Why don’t you go get your Bible quick and we can read it again right now!” 

Scene continues with meaningful conversation!!!

Wow, what a difference, right! Now obviously this is a best case scenario, some of you might have to take a little different approach or put in a little more work with your child to get there, but imagine the potential to connect with your child on a deeper level if YOU can be the one to tell THEM what they should have learned and ask them about it!

There is no magical solution to getting your teens to talk to you, and because of God’s beautiful and creative design every one of your children is going to be unique in how they interact and respond to these types of questions, but don’t discredit the value in TRYING! Your teens care more about what you think than you will ever know! Taking the initiative to learn about their schedules, their interests, their hobbies, their friends, and their relationship with God and ask them about it will have a profound impact on their life.

Just remember that teens today are OVERLOADED with information and activity, and it may help to try a different approach once in a while. (Tip: Check out this article on some tips and ideas!)

Here at Providence Church we want to partner with you parents as you have these conversations with your teens. The way we want to do that is by making sure you as parents are well informed of what we are teaching at BRISK Youth, what activities are coming up, and other ways that we are interacting with your students. That is part of the reason we began this PARENT BLOG!!!

We encourage you to continue checking out this blog for up-to-date information and resources, and if you have not already joined our parent email list, please email Dustin right away!!!

And while you are here…. take a few minutes to check out:

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Current Series: “Right Choices” (High School)

Current Series for BRISK High SCHOOL                         (Starts Wed. 1/27- Ends Wed. 4/20)

***Setting You Free to Make Right Choices by Josh Mcdowell***

“Our youth are confused about TRUTH”

   As we examine our youth’s views about morality, it is apparent that the
foundations upon which many parents, pastors, and youth leaders attempt to build are crumbling. Traditional biblical concepts are eroding… More

   Do you really think that a young person’s views about truth will make a significant difference in their behavior?” That is one of the astounding insights of this research. The study indicates that when our youth do not accept an objective standard of truth they become:
􀂙 – 36% more likely to lie to you as a parent! 
– 􀂙 48% more likely to cheat on an exam!
􀂙-  2 times more likely to try to physically hurt someone!
  More

   During this series we are going to be talking about the idea of truth and how our culture’s view compares to God’s view. We will be spending time each week in a large group setting talking about truth in our culture, current events/issues, and exploring God’s word, as well as time in small groups for some deeper discussion.

   We will also be taking several weeks throughout the series to talk about making Right Choices in specific areas of life such as Music, Movies/Entertainment, and Relationships/Dating. We will be taking a structured approach to develop “Biblical Principles” (see example here) in each of these areas that will help students (and leaders!) come up with a practical, biblical, game plan for making right choices every day.

For an in-depth schedule of what we will be talking about each week, click here or see more below.

To take a look at the leader’s guide, click here! (*we simply use this resource as a guide and our actual lessons will differ in content and material)

For more information on Josh Mcdowell ministries, click here!

Thanks for taking the time to invest in your teens and for allowing us at Providence Church BRISK to partner with you! Keep checking out our Parent Blog for more resources and information.

HS Brisk schedule
BRISK High School Series Schedule Jan-Jun 2016

Current Series: “Making of a King” (Middle School)

Current Series for BRISK Middle School                       (Starts Wed. 1/27- Ends Wed. 2/24)

***The Making of a King XP3 Curriculum***

 Every good story has a hero. Think about it.  Superman. Luke Skywalker. Katniss Everdeen. They aren’t just random characters. They’re larger than life. Maybe they’re not perfect, but they’re exciting and they’re brave. And that’s what keeps us interested. That’s why we cheer for them. Believe it or not, the Bible is full of heroes like that. More

Check out the weekly schedule here!

Check out the series intro video here!

Thanks for taking the time to invest in your teens and for allowing us at Providence Church BRISK to partner with you! Keep checking out our Parent Blog for more resources and information.

 

Upcoming Series for BRISK Middle School

3/02-3/23     ***The Comparison Trap XP3 Curriculum***

4/06-4/20     ***Out of This World XP3 Curriculum***

(More details to come)

YOU FOUND IT!!!

We are so excited that you have found the BRISK Parent Blog!!! We think this is going to be an amazing tool to inform, encourage and equip you as parents , and to keep you connected with the BRISK youth ministry at Providence Church!

For our first post, we simply wanted to share with you a brief vision and purpose for this blog and how we intend to use it!!!!

Blog vision

A brief google search for resources in “parenting teenagers” yields over 21,300,000 results! That makes for a lot of blogs, articles, videos, tips, websites, books, instructional programs, seminars, etc…… YOU GET THE PICTURE! It is truly amazing how the information age continues to inundate us with material. And yet in the middle of all this information, sometimes we find ourselves truly lost.

And that is why we are launching this Parent Blog! We are not world-renown experts in parenting or family matters, we have no doctorate degrees or Ph.D’s, we don’t have our own reality TV show (yet!) and you won’t find our names on the New York Best Seller lists (for now at least)….. BUT…. as the Youth Ministry Team at Providence Church, we do have a heart to see “God’s will be done and His kingdom come” through the youth and families in our community and around the world!!!! And we want to help YOU find resources that will INFORMENCOURAGE and EQUIP you as you parent your teenagers.

So this blog is for YOU, for your children, for your family, for your neighbors, for your relatives, for your community, and for ANYONE who has a teenager in their life that they are invested in. Our kids need us! And we need each other! And we are here to help! We encourage you to continue checking out this blog as we work to provide you with up-do-date articles, reports, trends, media, teaching, and encouragement for you and your family!

 

***While this blog is specifically designed for parents and families of the BRISK Youth Ministry at Providence Church, we hope that all parents and families that visit this page will be encouraged by what is being shared.